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Hello, Gem.

How’s your heart? I pray it’s thriving. Let me tell you what’s been on mine.

Growing Through It x K.M.

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There will always be something revolutionary about a woman in her 30s who decides to pivot.

Maybe you’ve outgrown the dream you once chased. Perhaps life handed you a shift you didn’t ask for, whether it’s a bad breakup, divorce, relocation, career disruption, or the ache of an empty womb. Whatever your transition version is, it’s real and worthy of grace.

We should know that life transitions are not just “turning the page” and proceeding onward. Sometimes, it feels like the whole book got rewritten.

But you’re not falling apart, Gem, you’re constantly healing and being reformed. Decide to welcome the refinement that is destined for you.

By the time we reach our 30s, we’ve been taught to have it “figured out.” But for many women, this decade is full of curveballs like career shifts, relationship changes, caregiving for parents, fertility challenges, or the reckoning of past choices.

Therapist Dr. Ayanna Abrams, founder of Not So Strong, reminds us:

“We often skip over the grief that comes with growth. Change—even the good kind—requires letting go.”

This is where intentional healing comes in. You don’t need to move through this season quickly. You just need to move through it truthfully.

Be honest and acknowledge what you’re going/growing through.

Write it down.

Say it out loud.

Tell a trusted friend. 

Transition loses power when it’s no longer hidden.

Alex Elle, author and healing advocate, says:

“Change is not a betrayal. Sometimes we outgrow people, dreams, and even ourselves. That’s not failure—that’s growth.”

Whether you’re closing a chapter or standing at a brand-new beginning, naming your season brings clarity.

Gem, this is not the time to armor up in silence. Let someone make you tea, listen without attempting to fix you, and let your community rise around you.

Strength is not synonymous with solitude. Dr. Thema Bryant puts it plainly:

“You don’t have to heal in isolation. Connection is a balm.”

Let the balm in.

Your energy is sacred. As you navigate change, guard your space from anyone or anything that drains you. Create rituals that ground you, such as morning affirmations, therapy check-ins, or walks that remind you you're still here and connected.

Change is uncomfortable, yes, but it can also be holy. You are not behind or broken. You are evolving.

Newsflash, Gem. Nobody has it all together. The curated squares on Instagram are always edited. The stunning woman at brunch with the beautiful outfits and sweet, innocent laughs is also fighting their own unseen battles. We’re all enduring something, so don’t assume you’re the only one suffering and overcoming.

You’re allowed to bloom slowly, pause if you need to, and do things differently.

Life transitions don’t have to be polished or perfect. They just need your presence and your willingness to stay with yourself, messy, weepy, uncertain, and becoming.

You are not starting over.
You are starting from experience.
And you are becoming her, on purpose.

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Gem, do us a solid and share this blog with a sister-friend growing through change. Let her know you see her, that she’s supported, and never alone. And also, remind her that we, over here at SheIsTreasure, have her back.

Until next time, I’m sending you lots of love and healing powers. - K.M.

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